An Expiration Date
An Expiration Date
As some of
you may be aware, I have been dealing with ‘shortness of breath’ issues since
2015. Finally, in this past year, it was properly diagnosed as COPD (Chronic
Obstructive Pulmonary Disease). My particular diagnosis deals more with chronic
bronchitis than with emphysema.
At my last
breathing test and pulmonologist appointment, my disease was re-staged. I now
have stage 3 (severe) COPD, which carries with it something of an expiration
date. I now have a 1 in 2 chance of surviving 5 years. And that does not
consider my already damaged heart, which this particular disease is known to be
very unfriendly to. The symptoms are unpleasant, make life increasingly
difficult, and will culminate in my inability to breathe without mechanical
assistance (ventilator), assistance which I intend to politely decline. When
that day comes, I will hopefully have already signed up for hospice care and a
dignified end of life.
So, what is
all this like? How do I feel about this eventuality? I was witness and
caregiver to my beloved Susan for nearly three years as we navigated her cancer
journey. She could not have been more courageous, more giving, or more loving
throughout what must have been for her an absolute horror. Following her remarkable
example, I have accepted my fate with equanimity. In our culture we try to
ignore the fact that we are mortal, but death is part of life, and while I have
no idea what comes after life, I am not afraid. For me, it is a kind of
‘radical acceptance’.
I will
navigate this new reality by living my life as fully as possible within the
limitations imposed by the disease. It is pointless to spend a single minute
brooding about this situation. It has happened. The question for the moment is “what
will I do now?”, and the answer is that I will continue to be the person I
desire to be. A kind and caring and open person who seeks to be a source of
light.
There are
many, many things to which I will need to attend. I do not want there to be any
messes for someone to clean up and will need to make sure that everything is in
order at all times. I will need to make sure my customers are taken care of and
not left in the lurch. In addition, I’d like to try to have some fun and
enjoyment in whatever time remains and will try to attend to that. Places to
go, people to see, etc.
I sincerely
hope my wonderful friends and family will not feel sorry for me. There is
really nothing to feel sorry about. I have lived an amazing life. I have had
the privilege of knowing true love, of being witness to the upbringing of three
incredible young people, and the absolute joy of watching them each go out into
the world and make wonderful lives for themselves. I have known wonderful
friends and business associates. So, for me, life seems complete. And there is
yet time to perhaps fill in a few things that I’d like to do, and I will
endeavor to do so.
So, to all
my friends, family, and associates, I love you all, and I hope you will stay
close as this particular journey slowly winds its way toward its natural conclusion.
MPC 5-3-2021
I'm sorry to hear you are seriously ill. We all have a date with death. I believe only God knows whether that will be in five years or five minutes. I know you will continue to live your best life, as did Susan. I hope we will see each soon, now that we are all vaccinated. Love you!
ReplyDeleteOh no. We love you Uncle
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